Recently I came across some articles which says “A boy threw acid on a girl because she refused to marry him”, “ a girl commits suicide over failed love” and few more on similar lines...
Seriously what’s wrong with us. Why people are taking it all wrongly. With all due respect to all those people, but do we really know what true love is all about. Why its so hard for us to accept the fact that the other person can not reciprocate what we feel about them. Why its so difficult to handle rejections, why we always take it on ourselves and in worst case made it as a question on our ego.
I think may be because we have got this whole concept of love wrongly. Its not completely our fault. We are thinking exactly what Bollywood taught us for all these years. A boy sees girl and the girl sees boy, they fall in love with each other, then they had some tough time, and then the story ends with boy and girl staying together, together ever after.
It never taught us what to do if we remove some hypothetical situations and give these stories some twists and little reality check. What if girl falls in love with boy but boy doesn’t or vice-versa. Ooops, now what to do. What are we supposed to do now. Sad but true, No one ever taught about this. This wasn't meant to be. So how we deal with it…..
Should we go typical bollywood style “ Tum Meri ho, sirf meri aur mai Tumhe kisi aur ki hone ni dunga….”. Hmmmm, looks like thats the answer. So go torture that person to hell, make him/her suffer for just saying “NO” to you, make him/her feel guilty to be friend with you or in worst case throw acid on her or kill her. Surely its the right way of dealing with your pain, you are doing the right thing. That person really deserves this, how can he/she say “NO" to the “PERFECT YOU”.
Or should we think of ourself as a loser. Start hating ourself and our life. Get ourself into depression, stop working, stop progressing and stop talking to all our loved ones….our friends, family almost everyone. Obviously how can we talk, we can’t. That’s not right. That’s not what true love means. Just because “one person” stops contacting ,we should not talk to anyone in this world. We don’t deserve anything, we got turned down and hence we are worthless, incapable fool. We are nothing, and the best way to end this pain and suffering is to end this life, so there you go…
But seriously is this what love is all about. I heard love is what makes you strong and gives you strength to cross oceans, wings to fly like free bird and touch the sky. Since when it has started making you weak. Shouldn’t it be the feeling that gives u courage and strength to deal with any situation in life, literally any….if you are truly in love with someone should’t you be able to deal with this one also. Isn’t love about that selfless feeling which is unforced and unconditional. Since when it has becoming so demanding. Isn’t it about the feeling that makes you love life more, helps you to grow and makes you a better person every single day.
Surely its hurting and left you heart broken when you can not be with someone whom you loved larger than life. But then its okay. There is nothing wrong in shedding some tears, but something seriously wrong if you can not overcome it. May be things are destined to be like this. May be god wants to end your story a little differently.
There is nothing wrong in being “rejected”. Its just other person doesn’t feel the way you felt about him/her, that’s it. No ones fault, not him/hers and not yours. I think the first thing we need to do is to tell ourself that "its okay not to be okay”. Its okay to accept the fact that things didn’t turn out the way we want and it will never going to change. We don't always get what we want but we will always get what we need. We need to tell our crying cribbing heart that things are going to be fine soon. It will soon find new light and new life.
Its not the end of your world. There is more to life. Give time to things to settle up and most importantly give time to yourself. Hang on and stay strong. Be patient with the immature you. People say that fall in love with the person who will never leave you, so first fall in love with yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. Until you get comfortable with being alone, you will never know if you are choosing someone out of love or loneliness.Appreciate and admire every little thing that you have and want to hear from others. Be the person that you have always wanted to be. Be your own hero. If its not the pictured perfect life , then write your own new story.
In the end live, love and let go…….
